Sunday, May 1, 2011

FAMOUS PEOPLE (ALIVE OR DEAD) THAT I’D LIKE TO SMOKE A CIGAR WITH

There are days to work, time to travel and then there is Sunday - our special day to reward ourselves for being good people (taking care of our family) and good citizens (paying our taxes so that government officials can use our money to but votes); God granted us Sunday to honor Him and rest up for Monday and start working, again. 

So after a lazy start to a Sunday, I sat on my back porch that overlooks the local park and just let my mind wander from how flavorful my new stick would be (a La Flor Dominicana “Chisel”, which is a double-ligero promising to be strong and spicy; I was anticipating a really great smoke) to who would be a few great people to share time with (alive or dead, I had the power!) while smoking a cigar. 

When men get away and smoke a cigar, we slow down and really enjoy the time away from the world and all our responsibilities; men are under a much different level of stress than any other group. 

Let me give you an example…. As you pass by a woman holding a sign that says, “Please, help; I have children – no donation is too small.”  Nine out of ten men will donate, even if it means giving her our lunch money!  Why?  Well, our society raises men to protect women and as men, we need to “tough it out!”

Now, let’s me give you an example if it is a man that is holding a sign…. As you pass by a man holding a sign that says, “Please, help; I have children – no donation is too small.”  Nine out of ten men will look at the dude and say, “Get a job!”  Why?  Well, men are usually very tough on other men plus we are problem solvers not listeners, ergo, we are solution oriented and thus, “Get a job!” means “Get off your butt and get a job – that will solve your problems!”

Back to smoking cigars with famous people…. With these people (alive or dead, this is my scenario) in groups of three, four or five max, If you could smoke a cigar with anyone, alive or dead, who would they be?  Here’s the premise:  You are going to go fishing on an all day boat, or golfing or just sitting, you can take three, four or five max, people with you… who would you take, so that you could smoke cigars while relaxing and just enjoy the conversation?  I asked several of my friends, so here goes:

The cigar-size name “Churchill” originated in honor of the prolific cigar smoker, Sir Winston Churchill. The British Prime Minister was a huge fan of big cigars, but at the time almost all the cigars that were made were smaller in stature, so he had custom cigars rolled to his liking. Never seen without one of his large cigars, the cigars themselves quickly became known as “Churchill’s”, and have been so ever since.   Don’t you just love having “inside info”?  Thought so!

Well, my five people would include my grandpa Henry Murray because he died when I was young and I’d like to know him as a man; My son, Nathan, who I’d like to spend more time with him while in the company of my friends; St. Michael the Archangel, because he’d have some kick-ass stories to share; King Arthur of the Knights of the Round Table fame because he lived some incredible adventures; Finally, Arnold Schwarzenegger.  I’m a big fan, plus I’ve always wanted to see Arnold leaving the “Loft” at Mission Pipe in Pleasanton, CA, Arnold would pause at the door and say, “I'll be back!” – Bill Ballew’s cigar buddies

I’d like to smoke a cigar with the following people: Albert Einstein has to be very witty; My father, because I never had a chance to smoke a cigar with him; Samuel Clemmons, aka Mark Twain, took his pseudonym - the river man’s term for water “two fathoms deep.” Anyone who smoked cigars and wrote “The Celebrated Jumping Frog of Calaveras County” (1865) just has to be very interesting. – Peter Donley’s cigar buddies

I would love to smoke a cigar with Jesus, Padre Pio, Jack Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Jim Bayard.
I would love to ask Jesus where I went wrong and what I could do to make up for my sins before I die. From Padre Pio, I’d love to know what it was like to be a saint in the middle of modern times and to be chosen by God.  With Jack Kennedy I’d like to say thank you and let him know he didn’t die in vein. To Martin Luther King I would like to ask him if he is satisfied with the results generated from his life and is there anything we can do to help in making things right. To Jim Bayard I would like to let him know that he gave me the greatest lesson in life… Prepare your path daily, prepare your soul through prayer, prepare for your death in truth… eternal life is yours. Jim was my friend and he died of leukemia in December of 2002. – John McCracken’s cigar buddies

My four people to share a cigar includes Winston Churchill, the great statesman and cigar smoker, to discuss history being made; Mark Twain, a very interesting fellow that always tried to fool his friends on blind cigar tasting (they were cigar snobs); Tiger Woods, so that I could pick up some pointers for my son's golf game; Socrates- to discuss philosophy; J.F. Kennedy- to discuss his rise to power and politics. – Dave L.’s cigar buddies

Four famous people that I want to get to know better include: Lee Marvin is actually the first person I thought of because I believe that he seems like a natural for a poster of Cigar smoking.  Marcus Garvey because he had a vision; I would like to know what he was thinking during his time.  Winston Churchill, he orchestrated the thinking to save the democratic way of life.  Nelson Mandela, what the hell was he thinking during all those years in prison, and how he was able to come out thinking so pragmatic. – Randy Ervin’s cigar buddies

If I had to seriously pick some people to smoke cigars with...well...how about these? William Shakespeare, Hernando de Soto, Abe Lincoln, George S. Patton Jr. and my reason: to say, “Thanks!” Also, Jeri Ryan from Star Trek Voyager and my reason:  Why, just to look at those tits for a good hour. Lastly, Mark Twain and my reasoning: It's Mark Twain dude; c’mon, do I really have to have a reason? - Eddie I.’s cigar buddies

My five people to share a cigar with and some interesting conversations with are: Mark Twain, George Burns, John F. Kennedy, Winston Churchill and Sophia Loren - Al D.‘s cigar buddies

I would like to smoke a cigar with Alyssa Milano, after the making of a beer commercial.  - Aaron Lee
My four people to share a cigar with... Why limit it to four? I'll take a day of comradely manhood at the “Loft” over any four imaginary people anyway! OK, OK – here’s my four people: Mark Twain, Socrates, Heff, and the star of life's pageantry, Pring! Twain is a perfect stogie conversation; Socrates adds his timeless input; Heff is just the MAN plain and simple; and Pring... Pring is what happens to all of us at different points in our lives. - Jamie M.’s cigar buddies

FDR, just to discover what makes a man like that “tick”; Lefty Kreh, to hear his “back in the day…” fishing stories; Hugh Hefner because he always has five or six playmates with him! – Eric Sheffield’s cigar buddies

All four of the men that I would like to smoke a cigar with were self-directed leaders through strength and courage, without regard to prevailing public opinion.  They are: Ronald Reagan, John Wayne, Joe Namath and Carlo Gambino - Dean G.’s cigar buddies

My cigar smoking choices would be: First) I would like to meet either of my two grandfathers, In that I was never given the chance to meet either one due to their unfortunate departure from this would before I was born, I would love to have the opportunity to meet either one and ask them about the male side of my family.  Next, Lewis and/or Clark; I think it would be fascinating to talk to a person(s) who was an early explorer and to have a chat about what it must have been like to see something for the first time (i.e. wild life, mountain ranges, rivers etc., I can only imagine what that must have been like.  Lastly, Bill Gates, I think it would be interesting to talk with a man who had so much money that even if he wanted to probable couldn’t spend all of it in his lifetime. I could offer him some personal suggestions on how he could better improve my life with the contribution of some money to my personal bank account. - Eric A.’s cigar buddies

Four people that I'd like to smoke a cigar with are Sigmund Freud to pick his brain, see how much cocaine he did, and find if he really believed all the stuff he theorized or if it was just a ploy to get laid a lot; JFK- talk about women, who he thought really wanted him dead, and mooch some good Cubans off of him; Dennis Hopper he's such a freak...and I can mooch some good Cubans off of him; Joe Pesci he’s just cool – Russ’s cigar buddies

My “four people list” would include, Winston Churchill- An incredible human being with great interpersonal strength and character, and a famous cigar smoker; George Burns- A great comedian who would surely make it a hugely entertaining occasion, and a famous cigar smoker; Condoleezza Rice- A person of great intellect, savvy, and personal integrity, who could conceivably become the first woman, and the first person of color, to become President of the United States; My Dad: No explanation needed. – DL’s cigar buddies

I would like to smoke a cigar with the following people: Chuck Yeager, to hear the stories. Stephen Hawking, Ghandi, Leonardo da Vinci, Jesus Christ, to find out what really was going on; Buddha, to get his opinion; John Balfour, my great grandfather, to get to know a bit more about my family history. - Ty F.’s cigar buddies

Here’s my take on four people to smoke a cigar with: Carlos Santana, I love his music and would like to know where the inspiration came from for his latest CD; George Mattison, my brother in-law. He is a great guy and needs a break from his newly acquired responsibilities; Demi Moore, I know she smokes cigars and I love to watch a sexy woman smoke a Churchill; Willie Walker, he's a long time friend (30 years), and they are hard to come by. - Richard G.’s cigar buddies

I’d like to smoke a cigar and sit down with my hero, Hugh Hefner (he can bring along a few ‘friends’), John Wayne would have great perspective, plus Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra of ‘Rat Pack’ fame and of course, Bobby Hull for the great hockey stories! - Mike W.’s cigar buddies

Ernest Hemingway, Teddy Roosevelt, Sir Edmund Hillary, Carl Jung and Albert Einstein – Great conversation and none take themselves too seriously – all adventurous souls. – Jim Coughlin
Heff – Do I really need to explain?  Winston Churchill – Opinionated strong willed Brit - two peas in a pod, eh?  Except for the Brit part at least.  Cleopatra – I’d hit it!  Anybody at the Loft! – Best camaraderie around! - Jamie M.’s cigar buddies

Wow! I would like to smoke a cigar with U.S. Grant, Robert E. Lee, George Patton, Erwin Rommel, and my dad. Nothing better than having a relaxing smoke with a bunch of egocentric, type-A military strategists trying to out-general each other! – Michael B.’s cigar buddies

I’d like to sit down with Arnold Schwarzenegger, Al Davis, Arturo Fuente and Mr. Dunhill as the conversation would be as good as the cigars! - Charles Valenzuela’s cigar buddies

President Kennedy, Humphrey Bogart & Marilyn Monroe ­ - Ted M.’s cigar buddies

Now, how about you?  Email me your candidates and I just might do a follow up blog!

billballew@yahoo.com

Friday, January 28, 2011

POKER GHOSTS AT THE RENO HILTON

POKER GHOSTS AT THE RENO HILTON
By Writer94566

This is a true story of mine that happened when I was playing in a large regional poker tournament at the Reno Hilton in Reno, NV called the Fall Pot of Gold Tournament. Today, it is the Grand Sierra Hotel and still a major player in poker tournaments.

I had experienced a really brutal bad beat in the previous evening’s tournament and had awoken with the thought that I would go for a short walk and would probably skip the morning tournament to just take a day off from poker.

On my way to enjoy a fine hand-made Cuban cigar during my morning walk, I ran into a friend of mine, Wayne Karcich, as I passed through the poker tournament area. Wayne greeted me enthusiastically and asked me if I was going to play in the tournament; I said no but Wayne encouraged me. So, I asked the sign up lady if I could have my “lucky seat’ and she asked why it was lucky. I explained that it was my wife had passed away and that her birthday was my luck seat (my wife’s date of birth, March 4th for Table 4, Seat 3); she just nodded her head and I was assigned Table 4, Seat 3. Sherry was born on March 4th, that’s the 3rd month and 4th day, so I thanked her (Today, everything is automated, so that could not happen ) and asked Wayne if he wanted to get some breakfast but he said he had to wait for Renee, his beautiful wife; we agreed to meet in 30 minutes and I went out for my talk to the poker gods while I smoked the remainder of my Partagas Series D #4; a absolutely great breakfast smoke and one of life’s little pleasures that everyone should try at least once.

During the third round of the tournament I heard my deceased wife’s (Sherry Lillian Crump Ballew) voice say to me, “Two of Hearts.” I actually spun around in my seat to look back but no one was there. I was momentarily stunned. The dealer said, “You turn, sir.” I just shook my head to try to clear the emotions and breathed a deep sigh of relief.

Then, I looked down to find the two of Spades and the two of Diamonds for a pocket pair of two’s as my hole cards. I just shook my head and thought, “What a weird coincidence.” Then I thought about being an old man in his rocking chair that was passing time watching people pass by; this old man’s best advice was “You will only regret the things that you don’t do, not the things that you actually do.” So I just smiled inwardly and took his advice as I called the bet.

A small nothing flop came up and I checked; my opponent on my immediate right bet half his chips, no one else had called his bet yet and now it was my turn. While the flop looked harmless, it was still three over cards to my low pair for me. I usually refrain from acting in a hurry, so I thought, “Did I really hear that?” I decided to make the call simply based on the theory that we usually regret the things that we do not do rather than the things that we think that we should do.

The turn brought another over card but not any paint. My opponent moved all-in and I kept thinking. The guy asked me what was taking so long and I told him that I thought that my deceased wife had told me the card that would come up and that if it did, that I would probably win the hand. He laughed in disbelief, so I called, turned over my pair of twos and told him that Sherry said I was going to get the two of hearts. No one could believe that I was that crazy to call off my chips as one smart aleck said, “That’s a first – A ‘Ghost Call’.” Several players laughed aloud while others just smiled and shook their heads.

The dealer burned a card, and then he turned over the river card – the two of Hearts!

Some of the players at the table actually said, “Good call.” I shook my head and said thanks silently to Sherry as I glanced up to Heaven where my angel was looking down, still protecting her family.

The next day, that same guy brought one of his friends over to me to have me verify the story.  I finished in fourth place in that tourney (a $20+$20 Buy-in event) out of 260 players and won $3,349.

Upon returning to my home in Pleasanton, CA I called Julie, my daughter. I found out that my daughter Julie and her husband Chris had both been laid off that week, so I drove the short distance of about 40 miles to Brentwood, CA to see her in person. Her wonderful twins were sleeping and we had some coffee. I decided to tell her my story about playing poker. I gave my daughter, Julie, the money and told her that it was a gift from her mother by telling her this story. My beautiful daughter Julie had tears in her eyes as she hugged me so hard that I knew she was thinking about her mother, Sherry.

Sherry always had a way of making me a better man and she did it this time, too. We all still miss her; still to this day her memory is alive in us.  I think of Sherry every day that I walk this earth because sherry gave me Julie and Nathan plus our loves still lives.

Family is not about “things” but rather family is about the intangibles of the soul and remembering our family members that are awaiting us in Heaven; as long as we live, Sherry will be alive in our minds and hearts. Sometimes, if we truly believe, we can actually hear them talk to us.

I still find this story incredible; but then I remember that Sherry did it for her daughter, Julie; I was just the messenger.

Taking a chance in 2011

My new year's resolution for 2011 is to be willing to take chances all year long because without risk, there is no growth and or reward!
I am currently unemployed but working hard daily to find a good job in the worst economy that I have ever experienced in my life; however, I found a positive in this situation.  I always wanted to be a writer and throughout the years, I have written stories and poems.  So now, I am working on being a writer by writing something every day - after my job searching, of course.

What have you always thought about doing?
Why not make it one of your 2011 resolutions to, as Nike says, "Just do it"?
Join me in continuing to take chances throughout 2011!

I believe that one of the toughest things to do is... Make a decision!
Why?  Different reasons for different individuals as that is a personal hang-up for all of us but... what's the worst that can happen?
Failure?  Nope, the worst failure is never trying!
How many different filaments did Edison try before succeeding with the light bulb?  Approximately 10,000! 

The point is that you are not a failure except when you quit on yourself or your dream!  So, ask yourself. "What is it that I am secretly afraid of?"
For example, I was secretly afraid to write because maybe my story would be deemed unworthy or worse, criticized by my friends; that is until I came to believe strongly in the "SW-SW-SW Theory"

Let me tell you a personal SW-SW-SW story:

This may be the best and most informative story that I ever share with you.  It comes from my heart and I hope that you will understand the concept that I was teaching my grand daughter, Alexis Sherry Ballew, nicknamed “Lexi”. 

I had the pleasure of taking my grand daughter, Alexis, on Halloween “Trick or Treat” nights for many, many years in her Brentwood neighborhood as we would call on some of her friend’s homes.  Alexis would go out “Trick or treating” with her parents, GabriellÄ— and Nathan, while I passed out candy at their home; upon their return, Nathan and Gabi would tell me where I could take Alexis.  It was a cool grand pa and grand daughter tradition.  One year, “Lexi” was either six or seven years old and I showed up to take her on our “Trick or Treating” Halloween venture in Brentwood, CA, which about forty miles from my home in Pleasanton, CA. 

I rang the doorbell and Alexis open the front door; I could tell that she had something on her mind.  As I always greeted my kids and grand kids on their level, that is, by getting down on one knee, so as to be equal in height with them.  I felt it was important to be loving and respectful towards children; so I immediately got down one knee to be on her level, as is my customary grand pa greeting and I hugged Alexis and gave her a cheek kiss.  Then I asked her, “Nice costume; but you look worried about something; can I help?”

Lexi took my hand and asked me to go to her room, so that we could talk in private.  OK, no worries.  After she shut her bedroom door, she look at me and said, “Do you like my costume?”

“Yes, Alexis.  Who are you supposed to be on this Halloween?”

“I’m going as Britney Spears.” (This was way before Britney shaved her head totally bald and went totally bonkers!) 

“Papa Bill, I am worried that some people will laugh at me because my tummy shows a little bit in this costume.”

I answered, “SW, SW, SW.”

“What does that mean, Papa Bill?” 

“Some will, some won’t, so what!”

I asked Lexi to repeat it out loud.  She smiled as she repeated our secret code: “SW, SW, SW.” We made a game of it. “Some will, some won’t, so what!”  We took turns repeating it several times.  We sat down on the floor and we talked about how it is important to always have fun in everything that we do, even when we go out and “Trick or Treat” in her neighborhood where everyone knows you.  Alexis was no longer bothered by any fear of acceptance but rather she was excited and in the moment as most children seem to be at Halloween; I think that God gave that ability to children as a gift.  Halloween was fun again as we were about to embark on another adventure of candy hunting.  This was a reward for being a grand parent and I love being a grand pa to all three of my grand children: Alexis, Hunter and Sierra!


I also told Alexis that it was important to do things that you liked to do like “Trick or Treat” but that some people did not like Halloween and so if they wanted us to ask for candy, their porch light would be on and that if a porch light was off, that we did not knock on that door because it was a secret code for “No candy.”  Kids are smart.  She understood. 

Then I said that the most important opinion on the costume was her opinion (and her father and mother’s, of course) but I asked if her tummy was going to be cold?  Alexis answered, “Maybe a little but I want to wear this costume.”

“Then remember what “SW, SW, SW” means and we said it out loud, again.  Lexi was happy and she had accepted the “SW, SW, SW” solution; quick and easy!  That’s what Grand Pa’s do!  Make life easy for our grand children to understand and enjoy; isn’t that the secret of love?  Acceptance.  Just being ourselves, with one another.

So the lesson is clear:  If you learn anything from this story and use it, then good.  Pass it on to someone that you love. 

Don’t let other people’s opinions of you become your opinion of yourself!  Be true to yourself. 

Some people learn from their mistakes while others learn from someone else’ mistakes.  No problem, what ever works!  Wisdom comes from mistakes; and what about what everyone else thinks?   No problem, I have an answer that works for our family; what’s your answer? 

SW – SW – SW
“Some Will, Some Won’t, So What!”

Write me back and let me know if you will join me on this 2011 Quest of taking a chance on a dream....

Thanks,

Writer94566